The screaming. Please. Make it stop.

S. Ohhhh S. You are a force of incredible beautiful nature, but a force, indeed. She is bright eyed with an intelligence far beyond her 26 months. She is a tester. She will tests everything. I say no. She does it anyway. She runs for “Exit” door, staring at me the whole way, knowing what is doing is wrong. She knows what the rules are and she is intent on breaking them all. She knows exactly what buttons to push like screaming. I get it, toddlers have very little self control, are hearing their sounds for the first time and want to express themselves. They scream when they are frustrated or mad. They do this. But S will look you right in the eyes and screech and even let out a little giggle after. She knows.

At first we tried Time Out. Time out has very little effect on Simone, unless she is in the pack n play and left alone. She very much dislikes being cut off from attention (as all littles) and she needs to be confined cause she will not sit still on command. But even that didn’t curb all the screaming. I am now that mom who can no longer go out to dinner. After we exhausted all our efforts, I looked to the internet for ideas.

I have found these to be quite helpful that and a combination of times out. While we still deal with screaming I definitely feel like we are making some head way. Anybody else got a tip that works for them?

  • Control the general volume in your house. That means no blaring TV, radio, or other background noise, and — most importantly — no screaming at your toddler to stop screaming. Remember, monkey see (or hear, in this case), monkey do.
  • When your toddler starts screeching up a storm, turn on some music and suggest he sing or join you in a sing-along. Not interested? Ask him about animal sounds he can make, or bring out some musical instruments. Sure, it may still be noisy, but at least it’ll be easier on the ears than toddler screams.
  • Challenge your screaming toddler: Look him in the eye and whisper. That may catch his attention and may make him curious enough to listen (and hopefully quiet down so he can hear).
  • Teach the concept of an “inside voice” and an “outside voice.” Give a demonstration and examples of where and when they can be used (“You use your inside voice in the house and your outside voice in the backyard”).
  • Another way to encourage quiet — when your toddler’s not screaming, invite him to a whispering match. Young children have a hard time whispering (it sounds sort of like a stage whisper) but that won’t stop them from trying, especially if you make a game of it (“Can you whisper like Mommy?”).
  • If you’re in a public place, say a restaurant, and your noisemaker refuses to use his inside voice, take him outside — where his outside voice belongs. Try to do this without raising your own voice and making a fuss.
  • Provide positive reinforcement When your toddler uses his inside voice at the appropriate time and place, be sure to shower him with praise.      (http://www.whattoexpect.com/toddler/behavior/screaming-and-screeching.aspx#)                                                                 We are flying out of town next week… during nap time. O_o Not really well planned, I guess but the tickets were too good a deal to pass up. I am sooo nervous about this screaming thing is going to go. 4 hours of screaming is what it will be if she doesn’t fall asleep. HOPE beyond hope that she falls asleep and I’m not THAT mom.
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